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So, your husband works long hours and you dont feel he is there for you anymore. On the other side of the coin, your husband thinks that you spend all of your time meeting the childrens needs and so he feels that you don’t have time for his needs. Sounds familiar? If so, do you think this relationship can be saved? Should it be saved? The answer is yes and here’s how you can actually do it in a step-by-step process.

Make sure that you really want to save the relationship. Before you put an effort towards saving your relationship you need to be sure if you think that it is worthy of saving. You can’t save it alone though, both of you must decide that you want to make the relationship work. If not, all efforts will be for nothing. Saving the relationship because it is more convenient that way or because of your childres, won’t put your relationship back to work.

Distinguish the problems in your relationship. Many failed to save their relationship because they were not dealing with the very core issues of their relationship. To actually save what you have, you need to deal with the real problems of your relationship. So, your partner have an affair. You might think that this is the problem, but it is not. The real problem in your relationship is lack of intimacy. This is what causes your partner to stray. So unless you deal with the real problem, your partner will have an affair one after another.

Begin to hear your thoughts. This must be a two-way communication. This means both verbalizing your own feelings and listening to your partners concerns. Show sincerity to your partner while holding your partners hand as you speak about your problems. This will show your partner that you want to reconnect even when your emotions are swirling. As your discussions go along, your partner might talk about things that can hurt you, keep in mind that the words are meant to improve your relationship… not to hurt you.

Come up with an action plan and prepare sensible steps for it to fix the problem. You might want to wine and dine your partner or take her to a concert. Randomly suprise your partner with your love notes. Or just have a good conversation while in bed until you two fall asleep.

Realize that saving a relationship is an ongoing process. It’s like taking two steps forward only to take one step back. Also expect both laughter and tears as you go forward towards saving your relationship.

If your relationship is worth saving, there is no reason whatsoever why you shouldn’t put forth an effort to save your relationship.